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The New Year’s Challenge

a wife's new years challenge

Heart Ring Light by Alex, edited

I see the New Year fastly approaching. With the close of 2014, I take a moment to sit and reflect on the year that has gone by. I reminisce about the many blessings and beautiful times celebrated during those last 365 days.

I do a self assessment. Reflecting on the obstacles I have overcome, the areas of growth that occurred, and the victories that came into sight.  I begin to thank the Lord for His hand upon my life over the past year, and I start to anticipate new events the future may bring . . . when I hear the Lord say, “Whoa, whoa, whoa my little one, share with me of things that you have not done.”

Tell me Ladies, do you remember the days of listening to records? Sitting alone in a favorite room and enjoying a sweet melody, when someone comes in and abruptly scratches the needle across the top? You go from “mmm that’s my jam” . . . to “awww man put my song back on!” Yeah  . . . that’s exactly how I was feeling when God interrupted my utopian walk down memory lane.

I was feeling that way because I knew EXACTLY what He was talking about. I didn’t have to “reminisce or reflect” on that one.  I was all too aware of my dirty little secret I spent little time allowing the Lord to transform during the previous four seasons.

Truth be told, I much more enjoyed recalling my shining moments than asking the Lord to reveal the hidden sins of my heart.  Now Ladies, please understand me, I felt no condemnation when the Lord brought this to my attention, because there is no condemnation in Christ (Romans 8:1). Period. End of story on that one.

However, I did feel conviction by the Holy Spirit.  It’s a loving conviction that says “open your eyes to see your sin, open your heart  to receive my grace, and open you life for me to transform.”  It’s really a beautiful thing. It’s because He loves us that He convicts us, He merely wants us to have the best, and let go of the junk.

So I am sure you are all dying to know what my junk is . . . let me put it to you this way, if I were to describe myself as a wife I would not be using many of the scriptures out of Proverbs 31. This is the passage that starts out “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.  She will not hinder him but help him all her life.”

So you ask, “who can find a virtuous and capable wife?”  Well some days, because of my horrible behaviors, I would want to answer, “probably NOT my husband.” (Please tell me I’m not the only wife that feels this way at times.)

Now if you were to ask my husband he would never say that, but you must know I married a very wise man . . . who is also extremely gracious!

But he does not have to confess these hidden unpleasant truths for me to know that I have not been the wife that God has called me to be.  Instead of being virtuous and capable, I have been critical and controlling.  I have seen over the years how I have hindered him instead of helped him, and on this day of reflection I felt the Lord lovingly challenge me once again to step into His Spirit and out of my flesh.

So what does this challenge look like? Well since it is the time of new year’s resolutions, first I’m going to choose to make this a year long priority. I’m going to move this to the front burner and turn it on highI know that this challenge is going to take a lot of attention and stirring in my spirit or Lord knows I will burn this thing to a crisp!

Like any good recipe this will require the right ingredients, and because I personally prefer to cook with others it will be open to all of my Besties out there that feel the Lord tugging at their apron to cook something new in their marriage.

In an attempt to kick off this year long challenge I will be devoting most of the posts in the month of January to becoming a Spirit lead wife. We will study what the scriptures have to say about this role, I’ll share practical tips from my counseling profession (I know I am a licensed professional that assists other couples in their marriage and yet I am still struggling with being a controlling, crazy wife . . .  sad but true!), and we will share and support each other because trust me there are going to be days we just don’t feel like cooking!

So there it is, my New Year’s Challenge to you Ladies . . .  are you ready? Maybe you are not sure, maybe you are thinking where is the “Make My Husband Better Challenge” . . . truth is Ladies, if that’s what you are thinking . . . the answer is that it’s right here . . . it starts with you.

I have heard this truth time and time again in my life, and I am ready to see it’s fullness . . . Come on, let’s give it a try and behold what the Lord can do with some broken women.  I’m ready to see new life in our marriages, I’m ready to glorify God in my role as a wife, and I’m ready to witness God’s truth come alive.  Get ready Ladies . . . it’s coming!

Who’s with me????


diane square  Diane Swan is a Professional Christian Counselor, Speaker and Blogger who is passionate about using her God given gifts to assist ladies in living victorious lives in Christ. She enjoys sharing true life messages that relate to the complex lives of every day women and leaves them feeling equipped to be more than conquerors in all their battles. Diane and her husband Todd are the founders of Seven Swans Ministries, an organization devoted to living out the gifts of the Spirit by offering a unique array of services to encourage, edify and expand God’s kingdom. Connect with Diane anytime: [btn text=”Facebook” tcolor=#008000 bcolor=#FFF link=””] – [btn text=”Twitter” tcolor=#008000 bcolor=#FFF link=””] – [btn text=”Pintrist” tcolor=#008000 bcolor=#FFF link=””] – [btn text=”Website” tcolor=#008000 bcolor=#FFF link=””]

2 thoughts on “The New Year’s Challenge”

  1. Vicki says:

    I’m totally “in”!

  2. Denise Ramirez says:

    Love this ♡ count me in girl 🙂

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