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Side by Side

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“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.” ~ Matthew Henry

When the Lord created the heavens and the earth, He spoke everything into existence . . . except for Adam and Eve.

Adam He formed from the dust of the ground, and breathed the breathe of life into him. While Eve was fashioned from the rib of Adam, and made to be forever at his side.

I have read the story of creation time and time again and yet it wasn’t until this week did I see the significance in how she was formed. She was neither made to be in front of her husband nor behind him. Not created to be above him or below, but to be his equal . . . at his side.

It was while we were driving and I sat next to my husband in our car, did the truth of this scripture finally unveil itself to me. We had recently in effort to improve our relationship, made a commitment to do what may seem like a very crazy thing . . . date each other.

Ok, maybe that doesn’t seem very crazy.

As a counselor, for years I have recommended couples regularly engage in date night on a weekly basis, and yet in my own marriage we had never followed this wonderful and wise advice . . . until six weeks ago.

Every Saturday for the past six weeks, we have gone out on a date. We have intentionally spent time focusing only on each other, laughing and creating memories, listening and encouraging each other in love.

As each week past we started to notice a difference. We became more patient with each other. Offered one another more grace. Felt more peace and joy. And ultimately noticed the power struggle that would at times creep up and cause friction in our marriage . . . begin to fade away.

It was when I sat in the car, next to him, at his side, that I noticed it’s absence. I no longer felt the need to control him and boss him around, nor did I feel the weight of his agenda and desires pressing down on me.

I just felt equal.

I felt cared for under his loving arm, and also longed to be the protector of his heart.

I felt like a rib on his side. A part of him, and I loved it!

It amazes me how God weaves His truths into such small details. From the creation of man and woman, He has made it known that the two are to be side by side.

For me it took six weeks of dating to recognize this truth, and feel the tightly squeezing grasp of the power struggle begin to loosen and fall away. If only I would have taken my own advice all those years ago.

Maybe you too are like me. Finding yourself frequently in a power struggle with your groom. Fighting feelings of controlling him, or irritated by the weight of his desires.

Then I have a challenge for you . . .

I challenge you to date your husband.

Make the commitment. Give it highest priority. Choose to invest in this weekly time together, and allow the Lord to reveal this truth directly to you.  Let’s pray:

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you for weaving significance and truth into everything you have made.  As your creation I long to reflect you and discover the fullness of your ways in my life, and in the role you have blessed me with as a wife.  Please help me to remember to remain at my husband’s side.  Help me to love him and receive his love, that together our union may bring you glory.  Assist us in making each other a priority, and allow us time to grow our love.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.


diane square Diane Swan is a Professional Christian Counselor, Speaker and Blogger who is passionate about using her God given gifts to assist ladies in living victorious lives in Christ. She enjoys sharing true life messages that relate to the complex lives of every day women and leaves them feeling equipped to be more than conquerors in all their battles. Diane and her husband Todd are the founders of Seven Swans Ministries, an organization devoted to living out the gifts of the Spirit by offering a unique array of services to encourage, edify and expand God’s kingdom. Connect with Diane anytime: Facebook Pinterest – Twitter – Website

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